One of the inevitable side effects of divorce is the ensuing gossip. Yes, little old you become fodder and material for idle gossip. Whether they’re neighbors, teachers, friends, acquaintances or sports parents your name seems to be on the tip of their tongue. Continue reading “Gossip Defense”
Hello Friends and Escapees. Just a quick note to wish you a festive New Year celebration. Whether it’s quiet or loud I hope you bring it in proud!
Mine will be a quiet one, which is the way I like it. I’ll make a decent meal, sit on the couch with a bottle of wine and perhaps watch ‘Casablanca’ for the hundredth time… “Here’s lookin’ at you kid.”
“The most beautiful people I’ve known are those who have known trials, have known struggles, have known loss, and have found their way out of the depths.”
― Elisabeth Kübler-Ross
LOSS-we all experience it, especially during divorce. The fact is we lose stuff everyday; a thought, our keys, our phone, a memory, our coins, a contest, a challenge, a call and the biggest one of all—TIME.
In tackling this subject I really wanted to express the idea that loss is something we all deal with whether they’re losses that leave a crevice in our hearts or small ones, that niggle on the left side of our brain.
Loss is just an unfortunate part of life… Continue reading “Fear Of Loss”
Dear readers, I’m very excited to announce my first radio interview hosted by Nina Hilger of DzintarsCers.com, an affiliate of CBC Radio. Nina has put together an inspiring interview with three wonderful people …one of them is me…. Okay, it might sound like I’m tooting my own horn. Guilty. What does Nora Ephron have to do with it…you might be wondering. Well, Nora’s famous quote is one of my favorites and this interview will inspire you to be the heroine in your own life… Continue reading “After The Affair Radio Interview”
I’ve been known to say “It’s the moments that count.” I said it in my book, chapter 1 to be precise. Just as in a marriage, it is true during the divorce process as well. We tend to put a great deal of emphasis on the big moments of life like weddings, divorce, giving birth, a long awaited promotion, or finally taking that exotic vacation. All of these big moments are exciting and they give us things to strive for and look forward to however, they are few and far between in life. If we’re only getting excited about these things then what are we doing in the in-between times? Continue reading “Savor The Moment”
They haven’t died. They still walk this planet maybe even in the same small town as you but you never see them. They have long since departed from your life. You’re simply two people who share memories but you’re not making any new ones together. You don’t know why. You wrack your brain in wondering why these friends have run out of time for you. You recall the things you’ve done for them; helping them move, fixing things at their house, babysitting their kids, hosting a party just for them. You recall good times. You try to figure out if you’ve offended them in some way. Did you make an offhand Continue reading “The Wine Diaries-When Friends Are Living Ghosts”
This message couldn’t be more relevant than during divorce or any other life crisis…
“Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.” – Marcel Proust
Surround yourself with supportive people who make you smile and send love your way. Leave alone the ones who fill you with self doubt. To reiterate this quote… Continue reading “Quote of the Week”
Here is a quote from a writer who lived on the outside of the social scene. An eccentric who’s writings were not respected while alive but has influenced contemporary writers of this and the last century. Who said this…
“Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.” – Soren Kierkegaard
I guess another way of saying this is “hindsight is 20/20” or “if only I had known___”. The point is sometimes we don’t know WHY things happen but in time the answers are revealed to us. In the meantime…since we have no choice but to live forwards might as well take a leap….
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How do you define motherhood? I remember when I was young and expecting my first child, I was so excited. The anticipation of caring for a tiny creature was almost overwhelming. The bewildering changes in my body as the pregnancy progressed were nothing compared to the changes to come. But ignorance is bliss. I was sure if I had enough hooded towels for baby, everything would be fine. As my baby grew inside me week by week, I was filled with questions. Who would he or she look like? (Knowing the gender prior to birth was rare in the ‘olden days’) Would they be perfect in every way? What would they become? Sometimes I doubted my ability to be a mother. Continue reading “The Irony of Motherhood”
Letting go is a big divorce phrase that get thrown around by friends, family, lawyers, mediators and random folks. Everyone talks about it like it’s putting your shoes on to go out. It should just Continue reading “Letting Go-3 Tips”