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One of the inevitable side effects of divorce is the ensuing gossip.  Yes, little old you become fodder and material for idle gossip.  Whether they’re neighbors, teachers, friends, acquaintances or sports parents your name seems to be on the tip of their tongue.

Oh, to have a good friend! One who doesn’t let you down, who believes in you…those are the gems…and you’ll need them during a divorce!

“A friend is one that knows you as you are, understands where you have been, accepts what you have become, and still, gently allows you to grow.”
― William Shakespeare

Today’s quote of the week couldn’t be more relevant than during divorce or any other life crisis…

“Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.” – Marcel Proust

Surround yourself with supportive people who make you smile and send love your way.  Leave alone the ones who fill you with self doubt.  To reiterate this quote…

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There is no more stressful time than during a divorce, except for death.  Think about that for a minute.  Divorce is a grieving process of sorts.

If you are going through it right now, chances are you’ve let your self care routine slide.  There are other more important things to worry about than my hair…you hear yourself say…the children come first, you say…and they do however, if you keep putting yourself last you won’t get through this journey intact. 

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”  Eleanor Roosevelt

This one gives me pause.  How do I let someone make me feel inferior?  Isn’t it what they say or do that makes me feel inferior?  Maybe what Mrs. Roosevelt is referring to is surrounding ourselves with the wrong people.  If someone is repeatedly saying or doing things that make you feel inferior then it is up to you ultimately to remove yourself from that person. Don’t go back for more.  Stop participating in the negativity.

Surround yourself with positive people and those who, while in their company make you feel good about yourself.  Also, a healthy dose of not caring what people think, and being comfortable in your skin will reduce those inferior reactions.

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 How did you stop letting people make you feel inferior?

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This week’s quote of the week is all about joy.

I was thinking it would be sweet to make Wednesdays our ‘quote of the week’ day.  So let’s begin with something fun.

“Wine is constant proof that God loves us and loves to see us happy.” – Benjamin Franklin

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Are you on social media sites?  How has being involved in social media effected your divorce?  There was no social media when I was first separated.  When I joined face book it was to stay in touch with long distance friends and extended family.  I had been

With Christmas around the corner we’re starting to make lists of who’s naughty and who’s nice.  It got me to thinking about some of the depressing gifts I received from well meaning friends and family following my divorce.  One that stands out is the

My daughter enjoying the ocean view

I just finished my morning coffee on the beach with the eagles, the loons and the less majestic sea gulls.  The cooler night air has brought with it a hint of fog on the water.  The first sign of the fall season.  It’s been a wonderful two weeks with my kids but now we have to say good bye, something I hate.