As promised, this is Part 2 of the Narcissist subject. If you missed Part 1 then you can read it here. We discussed the difference between a run of the mill A**hole and a Narcissist in Part 1.
Understanding the differences and similarities can help us put the personality disorder into perspective and reduce our inclination to label people including our exes. Before embarking on this post we need to understand that we all have some narcissistic qualities but it is the extreme Narcissistic personality that we discuss here.
This post was updated on May 9, 2020.
Have you heard of Scapegoating syndrome? I hadn’t heard of it until I randomly came across this post in my facebook feed; Scapegoating: When You Get Stuck Trying to Outrun Someone Else’s Shadow by Glynis Sherwood. This article answered many questions for me. It solved a mystery that I just couldn’t figure out.
Undoubtedly, one of the biggest challenges during divorce and in the initial stages of separation, is parenting. Parenting is a labour of love even in intact homes. However, add divorce and it is riddled with guilt, logistical obstacles, loneliness and tug of war. If you’re experiencing any of this know you’re not alone.
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One of the inevitable side effects of divorce is the ensuing gossip. Yes, little old you become fodder and material for idle gossip. Whether they’re neighbors, teachers, friends, acquaintances or sports parents your name seems to be on the tip of their tongue.
“Justice is open to everyone in the same way as the Ritz Hotel”-Judge Sturgess
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Caveat: This post is intended to empower you. It is not legal advice.
It sounds crazy but some people find themselves in the Appellate Courts for their divorce. Picture this; two people cannot agree on their divorce settlement so they proceed to trial. A judge decides for them how their assets will be divided and how much alimony if any will be awarded and where the kids will be and when. But that’s not the end…
Inevitably, someone doesn’t ‘like’ the judgment. Usually it’s the person who pays the support or deems he got less in the decision. If he or she has the resources they take the judgment to Appeals in an attempt to change the decision…. Do they need grounds for the
can cost you…money, assets and even the kids. I’ve heard many stories of regret and loss due to taking the ‘high road’ and being ‘nice’. This is especially true for us women as we are raised to be caring and nurturing. It’s part of our feminine quality. It’s double true for women who make the decision to leave. They, more than anyone are troubled with guilt which leads to being too nice and trying to keep everyone happy.
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One of the most destructive patterns of behavior in a divorce is Parental Alienation Syndrome or PAS as it is known in certain circles. I hadn’t heard of the term when I separated from my husband but if only I had, I would have seen the red flags flying above my head. While knowledge is power, I was naive. Even if you are not experiencing PAS, it’s important to understand what it is and at least recognize the signs.
Vashti and Brett Seacat -image source; abc news
I tuned in to Nancy Grace and was immediately riveted by her coverage of the Seacat case. He’s a cop charged with 1st degree murder of his wife Vashti Seacat. Only months prior to her murder, Vashti had served her husband with divorce papers. This is a sharp reminder of the vulnerability of all women who are initiating a separation or divorce. I gave my head a shake while watching this because I couldn’t believe I haven’t blogged about this issue; I’ve been negligent. So, this is what I’ve been meaning to tell you… women who
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Are you on social media sites? How has being involved in social media effected your divorce? There was no social media when I was first separated. When I joined face book it was to stay in touch with long distance friends and extended family. I had been
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