After divorce we feel defeated in love. We might stop believing in it altogether.
We may be spending what little energy we have left after the battle, providing and being there for our children. We’ve stopped believing in fairy tales but the time will come eventually when we look forward to new relationship(s).
Maybe we’re even looking for that perfect fit we call love. You know what I mean…that someone out there who holds the key to our heart, if only we knew where to find them!
Who holds the key to your heart?
I am a firm believer in asking the universe for what you want. I am a believer in dreaming up your ideal situation. If you don’t know what it or he looks like then how will you find it or know when he is standing at your doorstep? Because he may not look exactly like this…
It all starts in the power of thought. I should clarify when I say perfect, I don’t mean a perfect man but someone who is perfect for you. There is a difference but we don’t need to go there. Do we?
Did you ever buy a dress because you could picture yourself wearing it at some unknown future event? Besides, it was a perfect fit? And it waited in your closet until just the right moment.
Well, is that any different than dreaming about your future beau? Conjuring up someone with certain qualities that would make him your perfect fit is an exercise in asking the universe for what you want. Maybe you’re simply looking for this right now…hey, no judgment here!
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He may not be here yet but let that special dress in your closet be a reminder that good things come when we least expect it. I always find the most suitable shoes, dresses and clothes when I don’t need them. For example, there might be a great shoe sale on with the perfect size, style and color just for you. Do you need them right now? No, but you know they’ll be worn with love because they’re that perfect.
Now, I’m not comparing a man to a shoe sale, or a style of clothing or dress but I am comparing the finding of that man to the perfect shoe or dress.
When you’re looking the other way, he’ll see you. When he’s the last thing on your mind you’ll be the first thing on his. Destiny seems to work this way I’m not sure why. I know when I’ve gone looking specifically for that perfect something, I almost NEVER find it.
People say that about love,”Don’t look so hard and it will find you.”
Well, there are lots of theories out there about finding the perfect man or the perfect love and I do not claim to understand them. I don’t have any answers except to say don’t give up hope. Don’t stop believing in love. He will arrive one day with the key…
The first step is dreaming your beau up and destiny will provide him in time…all in good time. Meanwhile, for heaven’s sake (as my grandma used to say) when you find that dress that fits you perfectly, BUY it! Start Dreaming, Girls!
Want some romantic inspo? Check out my Romance Pinterest Board.
Did you find love after divorce? Are you still looking? Or maybe you’re just coasting, getting re-acquainted with self? (a wise decision).
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Donna Merrill
August 11, 2018 at 12:33 pmHi Lisa,
I agree that if you stop looking so hard for love, yea it will find you.
But only if you’re ready for it.
So I think it’s a great idea to just start making a list of exactly what you want in a partner, and what you won’t stand for.
It’s amazing how, when you write things down, you begin a chain reaction that gets things rolling in your direction.
-Donna
lisa
August 11, 2018 at 3:35 pmThat’s a good idea, Donna. Making a list can help us focus on what we want, kind of like meditating. “But only if you’re ready for it.”—that’s true too. Our hearts have to be open 🙂
Christine Carter
August 10, 2018 at 4:05 pmOh, Lisa, this is such an encouraging and inspiring message! I know so many who need to know this and believe that love will come again. And it’s often when we open our hearts to it, our minds to the idea of hope and trusting that in perfect time, it will appear right before our eyes.
Thank you for being such a beacon for many in times when they need to find light most.
lisa
August 11, 2018 at 3:33 pmThat’s so true, Chris. This post, which I wrote a few years back and i’ve updated, warms my heart all over again. It makes me smile thinking about the power of love and what can happen when we least expect it. Thanks for sharing!
Jeri
August 7, 2018 at 4:05 pmIt’s hard to think about finding love again, but I’m receptive to it. Today, I had a conversation along these lines with my therapist. What will I want in a future beau? This is especially important when we have learned that we might be attracted to dudes with compulsion issues. In any case, I’m mostly just looking forward to NOT being in a relationship for a while, but maybe a random guy will figure in when I’m not even looking 🙂
lisa
August 8, 2018 at 12:17 pmBeing receptive to it is the key. Good discussion with therapist, Jeri. Love your outlook on this subject. Thanks for sharing, Jeri!
Tamara
July 29, 2018 at 5:06 pmThat’s interesting. I have definitely conjured up the perfect prom dress, and then found it, and the perfect career, and then found it. I had a dream about a guy when I was 13 and he was so real to me. To this day, I think Cassidy has a lot of those same traits.
lisa
August 1, 2018 at 9:47 amI love this! You’re the living example of the power of thought, Tamara <3
DGKaye
July 27, 2018 at 4:05 pmBang on post Lis. Focusing our intentions on what we want will help manifest our dreams, and often they do come when we least expect it. <3
lisa
August 1, 2018 at 9:47 amThank you, Deb. It’s so true that the power of our thoughts can make a difference.
DGKaye
August 1, 2018 at 6:27 pmAbsolutely! <3
Marie Kléber
July 27, 2018 at 2:16 amAs you know it took me years to feel the joy to love again Lisa.
I love your post and I can’t agree more with all you say here. When we do feel ready, we ought to know inside that it’ll come. The Universe is there to guide us always.
Have a lovely day.
ps – received your book yesterday, can’t wait to start reading it.
xoxo
lisa
July 27, 2018 at 1:04 pmYes, indeed. Marie, you’ve been through so much and now it’s your time for love and joy! Take it all!!
I’m thrilled you’ve got your copy of Hearts Unbroken. I’ll be anxious to hear what you think 😀
Balroop Singh
July 26, 2018 at 6:19 pmLisa, I like the streak of hope that every word of this post is exuding. Finding love once again may not seem probable when a heart is broken but life is about moving ahead and keeping the thoughts positive. People do find the right ‘fit’ after divorce. 🙂 Inspiring thoughts!
lisa
July 27, 2018 at 1:03 pmThanks, Balroop. Yes, I feel the optimism and joy in this post. Even when we’re looking for the right one, or feeling like it won’t happen it’s so important to believe. This post makes me smile and hopefully others will smile, too.
My Inner Chick
July 26, 2018 at 11:49 amSending this to a fellow blogger today.
She needs it!
xxxx
lisa
July 26, 2018 at 4:20 pmThat makes me so happy xxoo