In the film Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, the main character decides to have his memories of his ex erased. These included ALL memories, good and bad. Did he once love her? Absolutely. When she broke it off with him though, the pain was too great to bear and he decides to erase her altogether. (That was after he found out she had done it first)
This is not a political post. You’ll notice it is also not tagged under ‘dream guys’. Let’s begin…
Does your ex have anything in common with Donald? It’s a good question. With all the media attention being heaped on Donald, we can’t help but analyze his personality (disorder). Maybe he’s just self centered…who knows for sure. Whatever way you want to look at it, he has several of the signs of a narcissistic personality disorder therefore, he makes a great comparison to what many women claim: Their ex is a narcissist. Let’s take a look at Continue reading “Does Your Ex Have Anything In Common With Donald?”
There are so many parents and children suffering out there from Parental Alienation. It’s tragic. I know this because my you tube video on the subject has too many responses…too many people are relating to this issue. Today, let’s take a look at what’s going on behind the scenes. What motivates the alienator to abuse their children by disapproving of their relationship with the target parent. Hint: Narcissism and PAS are often found in the same scenario…but not always. Continue reading “Behind Parental Alienation”
I wrote a post about how to tell the difference between a run of the mill A**hole and a Narcissist. I wrote it about six months ago and it has quickly topped my most popular blog ranking. Yes, there is a difference between an A**hole and a Narcissist and apparently many folks are interested in the subject. Next, I wrote about managing the narcissist in your life. I covered many tips and examples of how to handle the narcissist.
We hear about bullies on the playground. We worry our child will get bullied at school or even worse, we worry our child will be the bully. But bullying is something that goes on throughout our lives. It doesn’t end on the playground. We can experience it in the workplace, in a relationship, in a friendship and most likely in a divorce. Yes, there are such things as divorce bullies. Continue reading “5 Tips For Handling The Divorce Bully”
As promised, this is Part 2 of the Narcissist subject. If you missed Part 1 then you can read it here. We discussed the difference between a run of the mill A**hole and a Narcissist in Part 1. Understanding the differences and similarities can help us put the personality disorder into perspective and reduce our inclination to label people including our exes. Before embarking on this post we need to understand that we all have some narcissistic qualities but it is the extreme Narcissistic personality that we discuss here. Continue reading “Managing the Narcissist”
There seems to be a EX Narcissist epidemic. The most common statements I hear over social media and blogging are “My Ex is a Narcissist.” OR “I was married to a Narcissist.”
Funny, you just don’t hear I was married to a complete A**hole anymore. Why? Because the A**hole has been replaced by the Narcissist it seems.
Narcissism is a personality disorder (NPD) which technically, can only be diagnosed by a psychiatrist. But with the power of the internet we can all identify signs and symptoms of Narcissism at our fingertips. We already know what an a**hole is, right? So, let’s find out what a Narc is…we’re curious. We begin reading and watching youtube videos on the subject and voila, we’re convinced our Ex really is a Narcissist and maybe he IS. Continue reading “Narcissist or A**hole? Know the Difference”
One of the most destructive patterns of behavior in a divorce is Parental Alienation Syndrome or PAS as it is known in certain circles. I hadn’t heard of the term when I separated from my husband but if only I had, I would have seen the red flags flying above my head. While knowledge is power, I was naive. Even if you are not experiencing PAS, it’s important to understand what it is and at least recognize the signs. Continue reading “Parental Alienation”
I tuned in to Nancy Grace and was immediately riveted by her coverage of the Seacat case. He’s a cop charged with 1st degree murder of his wife Vashti Seacat. Only months prior to her murder, Vashti had served her husband with divorce papers. This is a sharp reminder of the vulnerability of all women who are initiating a separation or divorce. I gave my head a shake while watching this because I couldn’t believe I haven’t blogged about this issue; I’ve been negligent. So, this is what I’ve been meaning to tell you… women who Continue reading “Something I’ve Been Meaning to Tell You”
From the archives; I’m re-posting this one because there is so much of this happening. Many women and some men are dealing with an abusive ex.
Abuse during divorce is more common than we realize. When we take the step to end our marriage, we extricate ourselves from the marital turmoil only to find ourselves the target of even more abusive behaviors. The ex can become aggressive, verbally abusive, threatening, and sometimes Continue reading “Silence Is NOT Golden – divorce abuse”