Pissed About Cupid?

“To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.” – Oscar Wilde

Feeling pissed about Cupid this year?  It’s difficult after separation to feel inspired about a day dedicated to love when you feel your heart is broken.  But in order to mend your heart, you have to start loving yourself. In our marriages we often put ourselves last.  We even learn to stop loving ourselves.  How do we undo this?  We begin by treating ourselves right.

Turn Valentine’s Day into I HEART Me Day.

How do we celebrate I HEART Me day?

Make a list of your favorite things to do, eat, see, music and people.  Make a plan to include in your day as many of those things as possible.  Do you love to watch movies, go to the spa, have coffee with a friend, enjoy a special bottle of wine, have lunch with your kids, watch a sunset?  Don’t forget to include your favorite foods too.  Go to the best bakery in town and get your favorite dessert and have it all to yourself.  You will feel cheered after spending a day doing exactly what YOU want.

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Be selfish, self centered, spoiled and indulgent.  All those things we’re taught are ‘bad’.  In fact, that’s an even better word.  Be bad today.  Really, really bad and enjoy every minute of it.  I’d like to leave you with this thought; LOVE isn’t always found in the traditional “couples” sense of the word.  Look for love in other places in your life and you will be surprised at what you find.

Non Romantic love—what’s that?

Our friendships, nature, children and animals all provide non-romantic love that deserves equal appreciation. I leave you with some non-romantic Valentine’s Day visuals;


This will melt your heart every time!

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Just like you, there is beauty and mystery in nature

Whatever you decide to do for Valentine’s, enjoy it to the max.  Turn Cupid on his head and make it an ” I HEART me” day!

“To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.”  Oscar Wilde

Do you have some new ideas to make Valentine’s into “I HEART me” Day?  Share in the comments!

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14 Replies to “Pissed About Cupid?”

  1. It’s a GREAT idea.. even just for.. a random Tuesday. I need the self-love! I have always loved Valentine’s Day – whether single, taken, heartbroken, etc. because it’s always been a family holiday for me. Whether it’s my parents, my sister, my kids, etc. I love it. I totally see why it’s a trigger, though. My mom’s first Valentine’s Day after my father died? Awful. I wrote about it, though. Something good came out of it.
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    1. Right? So true. Easier said than done though 🙂 I often preach this message here but wasn’t the best at it before. Getting better. Aw, that must have been sooo hard. Nice to hear you view it as a family holiday. That’s perfect!

    1. Hi Jeri, yes sometimes the very thought of a romantic ‘celebration’ turns us the other way. Right when we should be thinking of taking care of self, it’s the last thing we do. That was a very thoughtful gesture from your friend. Friends can help us get through 🙂 Thanks for sharing!

  2. Self-love is the beginning of understanding love. Romantic love lasts a few days, may be a few months but self-love guides our steps towards knowing self, enlightenment and positivity. When we learn to be kind to our own selves, life becomes one big celebration, which doesn’t need any special days to rejoice.
    Wonderful post Lisa!

    1. Indeed, Balroop. I love this perspective ” When we learn to be kind to our own selves, life becomes one big celebration…” YES. 🙂

  3. This is so true Lisa. Self Love is key. I remember in Ireland Valentine’s day was about love between friends and love in families, it was a day to celebrate love in general and indulge in something good for us.
    This year I treat myself with a good movie – La La Land was the Extra treat for me.

    Keep sharing the love through your words! It’s awesome.
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  4. Hi Lisa,
    Love, Love, Love this post! Great advice! I think women often put themselves last in partnerships, families, even at work. It’s so important to take the time to love and accept ourselves for who we are. <3 <3 <3 Love on!! <3 <3 <3
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    1. So true, right? It’s almost a subconscious thing. making a point of caring for self makes us better in the long run. Too much emphasis on romantic love makes it refreshing to switch it up for Vday.

  5. I seriously love what you are doing here, Lisa <3 I can't say enough great things about how uplifting and inspiring your posts have been as of late.

    I (personally) have never liked the holiday. It always seems to be The Day of Unrealistic Expectations and it's impossible to get away. This year, we ended up at the resort by chance (we were supposed to leave on the 14th) and we told the staff NOT to do anything romantic. Because that's just not who we are. We have fun, we goof, and we laugh a lot, but I'm not into displays of affection JUST BECAUSE you have to. But that's just me. If it's your bag, have at it. Just keep it away from me (kidding. Kinda, lol!!)

    Anyway, I hope you had a good one, and it's always refreshing to be here 🙂

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    1. Thank you, charlotte. I feel like I’m repeating my message somewhat but Valentine’s tends to be overrated. Still, being single on this day seems to make people feel worse when in fact, being in a loveless relationship on Valentine’s Day is equally painful. Always comes down to treating ourselves right. That said, I did get a dozen beautiful red roses. My Beau does spoil me so I am grateful for the ongoing show of affection. You and Bryan sound like you have an awesome relationship going, Charlotte. Being able to laugh together and goof around is the absolute best! I think there is less need for these elaborate displays when love is shown everyday. Nice to hear from you as always, my friend!

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