Finding Your Inner Sex Goddess


finding your inner sex goddess

From the archives one of my favorites and just in time for flesh baring clothes….


Hello, where have you been?  That’s what you’ll be asking when you find her.  I can’t think of a better time than post divorce, to get in touch with your inner sex goddess.  She’s dying to get out!  Finding her will  be exciting, fun and rewarding.  Embracing your sexuality means owning it.  Dressing in clothes that feel and fit perfect.  Not revealing clothes but nicely fitted, beautiful fabrics.  Silk, pure cotton, cashmere and linen can feel heavenly next to the skin.  Sensual means senses.  Feel, touch, sound, sight; they all play a role in finding our inner sex goddess.  Inner, meaning from within as opposed to the obvious.   Sure, great sex plays a big part in this awakening but most importantly, it’s how you feel about yourself that counts.

Start Here…

1 positive self talk– when you look in the mirror compliment yourself

Wardrobe– how do your clothes feel and look on you?  Go through your wardrobe and try on everything anything that doesn’t fit or you don’t feel confident in get rid of! This includes updating the lingerie collection.

3 Bedding and Bath– what state are your bedding and bath towels in?  They should enshroud you in softness, comfort and give you a sense of decadence.  If they don’t get rid of them and invest in some quality bedding you can slide into (naked of course) and feel beauty against your skin

Music–  Do you play your favorites?  Or do you just listen to the radio because it’s easier?  -pick out some sultry tunes, make your personal playlist.  Is it Jazz, classical, pop, rock?  Is there an era of music you find sexy?

5  Shoes–  What’s the situation with your shoes?  Do you live in sneaks?  I love sneakers but a girl needs a high heel especially to boost her body self confidence.  Invest in a great pair of go to heels that will look great with skinny jeans or a skirt

6 Hair maintenance– a regular cut and highlights can do wonders for your self confidence.  I have been guilty of neglecting this and I have vowed not to let it go again!

7. Nails – tidy? Pretty?  Get them softened and treated once every few months and you will feel beautiful

8 spa treatments; again, I am guilty here and since ruminating on this post and reading all about the beauty of French women (which I aspire to be, ahem) they take their spa treatments SERIOUSLY.  They wouldn’t miss an appointment and there is no guilt or assumption of selfish behavior about it.  One of my favorite blogs is Vicki Archer’s FRENCH ESSENCE.  She shares all the French Woman secrets.

9 Zumba– or any exercise but Zumba gets you moving in ways you didn’t realize you could!

You’ll notice I haven’t mentioned makeup.  I don’t believe makeup gives us the same sense of goddess as our clothing or touch, scent or sound.  Some would argue a good red lipstick will add glamour to a plain jane.  I guess there’s some truth to that but overall, and maybe this is a personal opinion,  makeup can’t come close to doing for the senses what cashmere, silk or a beautiful scent can do.

In fact, I started going without a drop of makeup as an experiment.  It started with laziness.  Some days I would forget to put on makeup.  Then I discovered I loved getting ready for bed and not having to think about taking makeup off.  It was a relief.  I have never been a big make up wearer and even if I spent 10 minutes putting it on I would have people say “You don’t wear any make up do you?” .  I would think  Huh, why did I spend 10 minutes on my face?   So just to see how I would feel without it I decided to continue with my bare face.  At first, I felt strange going out to do errands and even meeting clients without a drop of makeup.  I wondered if they would find me less attractive.  But no one seemed to notice.

I felt different.  I felt naked in a sense.   The flaws including the dark circles under my eyes are all out there for the world to see.  But I remind myself, men have all of those things and we don’t judge them for walking around without covering up their flaws.  After 1 week I’m used to the face looking back at me and bonus; I’m taking better care of my skin.  Instead of spending money on eye shadow and concealer I can invest in quality skin care products.  Cleaning my tiny bathroom, I put all the makeup paraphernalia under the sink, out of sight.  I’m loving the decluttered result.  So the consensus?  Less $ spent and less clutter, and a purer self image.   I still use hair products, nail polish and perfume so I wouldn’t give all my girly rituals up .  The point is developing my confidence as a naked face, just me without the trappings was a surprising experiment.

Finding Your inner sex goddess
blue racoon eyes? No thanks

Now, looking at fashion magazines advice on makeup seems ridiculous.  Who actually would wear those colors?  And who wants raccoon eyes?  They might look attractive on 18 yr old models but not in my world!  I must confess though, I do miss my mascara and I may go back to it eventually.  I would recommend this experiment for any goddess.  You will likely learn something about your inner confidence by going without your usual cover up.

GODESSES to inspire;

MADONNA (think 1984 “Like a Virgin”)



She still exudes a certain mystery to young women today decades after her death

finding your inner sex goddess


finding your inner sex goddess


 she exudes a terrific confidence

Your Inner Sex Goddess


finding your inner sex goddess
finding your inner sex goddess
source; pinterest



I like that she has an hourglass figure. I wanted to include this candid untouched photo, and show you she’s not a stick.

j lo in  a suit

jennifer lopez

PENELOPE CRUZ (think her fiery performance in Vicky Christina Barcelona)


a Woody Allen movie made for men but if you must suffer through it you can at least admire the beauty and elegance of the clothing worn by both Penelope and Scarlett)

QUEEN LATIFAH- personality plus, voice and beauty

ADELE –classic full figure beauty and glamour

image source Vogue via Pinterest

Finding your inner sex goddess starting with a wardrobe edit, great shoes, music, hair and a little exercise.  Take the no makeup challenge and find your inner beauty. Use your senses to feel more sensual and have fun!

Who inspires you? 

Will you change anything in your routine?  What will you add to your home or wardrobe to feel more sexy and sensual?

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10 Replies to “Finding Your Inner Sex Goddess”

  1. I love embracing my inner goddess. She wants to be effortlessly sexy though. Wish it was so much work! I do choose comfort over beauty when time doesn’t allow. I have also stopped wearing mascara daily because taking it off might give me more eye wrinkles. Haha!

    1. I’m thinking like you Jodi. I usually take comfort over style 🙂 you don’t need makeup!

  2. I do live in sneakers. I have one pair of high heels and one pair of ankle boots, but I’m all ready tall and I have back issues so I don’t walk well in them. lol I love eye shadow, but I would never do blue raccoon eyes.

    1. It’s nice to have that height without heels. I LOVE sneakers, too! I could live in them

  3. I love the point you have mentioned in this post that is “Take the no makeup challenge and find your inner beauty.”

    Every person is beautiful because of inner beauty. Don’t blame yourself in case of beauty.


    1. Absolutely, Diana! There is too much emphasis on the outside appearance & not enough on how we feel on the inside. Thanks for stopping by.

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