The Divorcee’s Night Before Christmas

Twas the Night Before ChristmasDecember has melted before my eyes  like an icy snowball in mid-July.  I guess that’s the way it’s going to be though. Time speeds up every year, so why not make the most of each moment (even the ones that aren’t so great).

Tis the Season of memories and not all are good ones…

As we draw closer to Christmas, we may face disappointments and revisit  old ways of thinking. We may re-hash the ghosts of Christmas Past and that’s bound to dredge up unwanted emotions. 

It’s okay to have these feelings as long as we can pull ourselves out of them.  It’s perfectly natural to revisit old memories and traditions but make a promise to yourself to start new traditions. As the years pass, you will replace some of the painful memories with new, happier ones.  It may not feel like it right now, especially if this is your first Christmas post divorce but trust me, you’ll get there.

To make you smile today, I entertain you with my post divorce take on a holiday classic inspired by my first Christmas Eve spent alone;

Twas The Night Before Christmas

Twas the night before Christmas

And all through the house,  the only creatures  stirring

Were one sleepless divorcee, and one tiny mouse

The cookies were baked, the champagne was poured

Decorations were strewn on the floor

But no one was here for the pending storm,

the children were at their father’s home

Shhh, through the quiet she hears

Her own heart-beat  tick-tock,

The clock strikes midnight

For better or for worse, she is alone tonight

So with glass in hand and cap on head

Just as she decides to head to bed, what should appear?

That tiny mouse

scurrying across her kitchen floor!

“Oh, well” she sighs,

sipping the last of her champagne

The Divorcee's Night Before Christmas

She could think of worse creatures to share Christmas Eve

a tiny mouse was no match for an ex-spouse

Besides, the dawn would break

And no longer would she wait

For Santa isn’t coming,

  with a nod and a wink

She tip toes to bed, down the hallway that is bare

(except for the bit of tinsel she put there)

And just as she lies down to rest her head

she swore the mouse said, “It’s been a long day”

Just before he squeaked away…

 Merry Christmas to all and to all a good night!

Twas the Night Before Christmas

Sugarplums can still dance in your head…

I wish you all the joy Christmas can bring and though it may not feel like it right now, sugarplums can still dance in your head.  And if you’re alone for the season, make plans that make you happy. Spend the day doing something nice for yourself. I guarantee  you’ll enjoy it more than any obligatory Christmas event. The best tip anyone gave me, treat Christmas just like any other day on the calendar. This perspective will keep you from feeling disappointed. Make it all about you…

Christmas posts that may interest you;

My Almost Divorced 12 Days of Christmas

He Ruined Last Christmas, This Year I’m Reclaiming It and My Joy

Dear Santa This is What a Divorced Mom Needs For Christmas

This post has been updated, and was originally published here in December, 2012. And yes, I really did have a mouse in my house my first Christmas after divorce.

What are your plans for the Holiday season? How are you making new, happier memories?

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34 Replies to “The Divorcee’s Night Before Christmas”

  1. We have family going through this right now and it’s their first Christmas, I know it will be hard for them, but I also know they’re trying to focus on their kids and making it a good Christmas for them.
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  2. Awwww Lisa I loved this <3 the imagery, the mouse of course, the little mouse picture (eeep!! So cute!!). And also (but maybe especially most of all), the reminder that Christmas is just another day of the year. I think I feel a very real letdown after the holiday is over—so much anticipation and so little fanfare I guess?? Anyway, I needed this reminder and this dose of poetry. Sending you and yours the very best this holiday season <3
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    1. Haha, isn’t that mouse adorable? In reality, I don’t think they’re quite that cute. I had to set a trap in my house—poor thing. Me too, Charlotte. The build-up is ridiculous. I have to constantly remind myself that I’ve done (shopped) enough. If anyone isn’t happy with my gift or whatever, then they can stuff it. Haha! Back at ya, Charlotte. Enjoy!

  3. Merry Christmas! Been there done that bought the t-shirt.

    I survived. On Friday, my husband and I will have been married 27 years. “This too shall pass” became the mantra, and it did.

    1. Hey Ellen, you had your Christmas Eve alone with a mouse, too…hehe. It’s a rite of passage for us divorcees. Happy Anniversary, Ellen! Hope you guys have a wonderful celebration!

    1. Merry Christmas, Balroop! A little humor does help with the hurts. Yes, breaking from oppressive traditions is quite liberating. thanks for your well wishes 🙂

    1. Thanks, Lauren! You make a good point in that many people are celebrating in non-traditional ways maybe because of life changes etc. (it isn’t always a divorce that changes our traditions). Putting yourself first is important this time of year especially.

  4. Hi

    I have been reading your blog the last few days and really enjoy it.
    I am a beginner in blogging, and I am happy to learn from you!.
    Awesome articles and i looking forward to read your all blogs.

    Thank You.
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  5. This is so great Lisa. I can’t even fathom how it would be to start anew and to be the one to not have the kids…oooph. Such solid words my friend.
    I am so glad to see you back here on your space. I really am. Merry Christmas to you and I hope that you enjoy it and that you stay safe out there in your travels xxoxox
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    1. Thanks, Kim. Yes, that’s the hardest part is not having the children with you on these occasions. Knowing they’ll return soon is a help. Merry Christmas, Kim! And it’s good to be back here 😛

  6. May you have a peaceful and bright Christmas Lisa! Thank you for all the things you shared this year with all of us. Your words are helping many women out there! You are precious!
    Much love from France!
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  7. Aw Lisa, that poem! I can’t imagine how hard that first Christmas without your kids was and you putting it to words with a slice of humor is amazing and inspiring. I’m so glad and grateful you are using something that was so difficult for you- to help others endure and triumph in their own difficult divorce situations.

    YOU are such an incredible woman, Lisa. I’m so glad we connected.

    I hope you had a Merry Christmas and I wish you ALLGOODTHINGS for 2018!
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    1. The first one is the hardest. We always shared either Christmas Eve or Christmas Day so each of us could celebrate at least one day with them. I wrote the poem many years after when I was able to see the bright side of it all 🙂 Aw, thank you so much, Chris! Back at ya, Lady! 2018, here we come 😀

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