There are so many parents and children suffering out there from Parental Alienation. It’s tragic. I know this because my you tube video on the subject has too many responses…too many people are relating to this issue. Today, let’s take a look at what’s going on behind the scenes. What motivates the alienator to abuse their children by disapproving of their relationship with the target parent. Hint: Narcissism and PAS are often found in the same scenario…but not always. Continue reading “Behind Parental Alienation”
When I was scrolling through my facebook feed a while back I came across this question; Which TV mom are you? I had to laugh. Immediately, I chose Lorelei Gilmore, not because of the young and hot factor. I wish. It’s her attitude and general outlook on life I can relate to. But I have to admit I see a little of myself in many of these beloved characters.
Isn’t that the brilliance of the writers who create these characters? They make our problems seem small or they make us say “Oh, so it isn’t just me…”
Let’s take a look at some of these TV moms and you tell me— which one are you?
You’re Christy from Mom if: You’re struggling to pay the bills, your mother lives with you and she likes to party more than you, you’re divorced, had a brief affair with your boss, you’re in rehab, you’re trying your best to protect your children from your crazy mother and other life disasters. Continue reading “Which TV Mom Are You?”
Do you hang on to those negative memories a little too long? Wishing they had been different. Maybe wishing you had been different—said something different? I do. I try not to but there I go…remembering stuff again. Sometimes these memories pop up at the weirdest times, lurking and waiting to own my mind once again. Continue reading “Memories Are Closer Than They Appear”
It’s going we can all agree on that. But how is it going—hot, breezy, sweet, lazy, painful, cool, flashing, sweaty, fast and crazy? The hourglass is glued to the table, the sand trickling through, going, going—gone.
I’m sitting with my toes in the water, sun blazing on my head, the seagulls Continue reading “The Wine Diaries-How’s Your Summer Going?”
Back in 2012 I wrote about the challenges of rebooting your career after staying home to raise children or as a SAHM (Stay at home mom). If you haven’t already read What The F Am I Gonna Do Now? please review it as I share important tips about spousal/alimony support that I’m not covering in this post.
During divorce our career or lack thereof, is obviously a top concern. Your ex, his lawyer and most anyone will be asking the inevitable question; “When are you going to get a job?” I know. Rude, right? I thought so, too. What was I supposed to do run out and get a job at McD’s? My ex probably would have enjoyed that however, before going out and grabbing the Continue reading “Career Reboot For SAHMs”
I have been contacted by some really great guys here at the Great Escape blog. One of them said to me last week “I have a strong feeling that many men like myself who could benefit from your words are immediately turned off by the subject and the target audience.” Burrrrrrn. Continue reading “For the Good Guys”
There was nothing more painful than the kid’s birthdays during divorce. Will they be with mom or dad and what do they want to do? If you’re in the wrong week according to the custody schedule, you may not get to see them on their special day. It can feel ‘all wrong’ especially when you were the stay at home mom who planned all the previous parties. Continue reading “Divorce and Birthdays- An Emotional Mix”
As promised, this is Part 2 of the Narcissist subject. If you missed Part 1 then you can read it here. We discussed the difference between a run of the mill A**hole and a Narcissist in Part 1. Understanding the differences and similarities can help us put the personality disorder into perspective and reduce our inclination to label people including our exes. Before embarking on this post we need to understand that we all have some narcissistic qualities but it is the extreme Narcissistic personality that we discuss here. Continue reading “Managing the Narcissist”
Have you heard of Scapegoating syndrome? I hadn’t heard of it until I randomly came across this post in my facebook feed; Scapegoating: When You Get Stuck Trying to Outrun Someone Else’s Shadow by Glynis Sherwood. This article answered many questions for me. It solved a mystery that I just couldn’t figure out. Continue reading “Scapegoating in Families-What We Need to Know”
Fall is in the air. I can almost smell the new, freshly sharpened pencils and blank notebooks. You know the ones with the line on the left margin? I can feel the brand new text books with stubborn spines holding promise of a new world of words and facts. Even if we’re not returning to school something in our soul tells us so. The falling leaves, the sound of school bells and new shoes all say “hey, what are you going to learn?”
Are you going back to school to try something new or are you going to simply turn over a new leaf? Continue reading “So, How Was Your Summer Really?”