50 Ways to Leave Your Husband

From the ARCHIVES; I thought we could use a little humor today.  This is tongue in cheek and I first posted this last April.  Someone contacted me and said they were offended that I would suggest leaving a marriage was this simple.  To which I responded “Hey, Paul Simon was the one who said it, not me!”  Also, grab a sense of humor lady…

We can thank Paul Simon for the clever suggestions in “50 Ways To Leave Your lover Husband”.  Paul was one of the best singer, songwriters of his generation.  I remember this song as a child and thinking there was something very unusual about the tune and the lyrics.  It was both catchy and dangerous at the same time… Read more →

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The Wine Diaries-Temporary Goodbyes

FOUR years after my separation, the time came to make the hardest decision next to ending my marriage.  I decided to move back to the West Coast.  I grew up there and it’s where my partner, friends and family still resided. I agonized over this decision.  But I knew as I sat in my house alone yet again anticipating my children’s arrival that would not come to pass, that it was time to seriously re-consider what I was trying to accomplish.  Things weren’t turning out the Read more →

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The Dumbest Divorce Questions-I Got Asked

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People will ask you the weirdest, nosiest most obnoxious questions when you tell them your marriage is over.  As a woman who made the decision to end my marriage, the reaction of bewilderment by some people was beyond frustrating.  Here are the top dumbest divorce questions I got asked; Read more →

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The Flip Side of Divorce

There is always so much negative coverage, comments, judgments and professional nay saying about divorce.  But what about the flip side of divorce?  Yes, there is one.  Instead of focusing on the difficulties, expense and strife of divorce I would like to take a few moments to examine the good, the pluses and the long term positive effects of divorce.

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What the F am I Gonna Do Now?

When we find out we’re expecting we are overwhelmed and delighted by the prospect of entering a new phase in our life; motherhood.  We want to do what’s best for our babies.  Thus begins the long path of putting our children’s needs before our own.  Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying this is a bad thing however, as we learn years later, the decision we thought was the best at one point, ends up hurting us.  Read more →

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The Woman Wearing the Scarlett Letter

Demi Moore in The Scarlett Letter

I’ve never felt so ostracized as I did post divorce.  I was the woman wearing the Scarlett Letter, it seemed.  It turns out you don’t need to be an adulterer to be shunned, especially if you are the one to end the marriage.   Can you return without the social stigma?  Is it true you can never go back?  Can you walk the same streets and feel like the same person?  If you have relocated after a difficult divorce, you may return one day and ask yourself these very questions.  I pondered these questions upon my return to a city my children still call home. Read more →

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50 Ways to Leave Your Husband

We can thank Paul Simon for the clever suggestions in “50 Ways To Leave Your lover Husband”.  Paul was one of the best singer, songwriters of his generation.  I remember this song as a child and thinking there was something very unusual about the tune and the lyrics.  It was both catchy and dangerous at the same time.  Read more →

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Divorce Month

What is divorce Month?   It’s a well known fact that more separations and divorces happen in January.  Even more break ups in less serious relationships happen this month, why?  January is the most dreary month of the year including the weather, the lack of daylight, the Christmas bills, and the lingering disappointments of the recent Christmas season.  Read more →

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