Ideally, we would hire the best lawyer in town to handle our divorce proceedings. That’s not reality, however. The fact of the matter is very few of us can afford a top lawyer, and even many more can barely afford a bottom of the heap lawyer (not that we would recognize that until we’re half way through).
The sad truth about our divorce law is, it isn’t keeping up with the digital age and does nothing to rectify an economic divide when it comes to legal services.
“I have been a divorce lawyer for 20 years and the last time Canada’s Divorce Act was changed was in 1986, pre-dating the internet. In other words, Family Law in Canada operates as if the internet didn’t happen.”-Andrew Feldstein
That may be slowly changing though I’ll expand on that in a moment.
Why feel lost when we’re all here, your on-line supporters and friends? Lisa’s divorce support round-up promises to offer something for every kind of divorce; high conflict, co-Parenting with a jerk, looking for love, having trouble dealing with your off the charts, emotions? I could go on and on because the issues we face during divorce are infinite in their variety. Continue reading “When You Feel Lost-Lisa’s Divorce Support Round-up”
I haven’t actually written about the end of my divorce. I’ve written about the beginning and the middle in my book and here, on the blog. But I think the story of the end of a divorce can be just as interesting as the story of how it all began.
The end, for me was kind of surreal. The official process began before the fire and concluded three months later. I tend to mark things that happened that year as before and after the fire. And yes, I refer to the end of my divorce as a process in and of itself because as much as we wish it would end already, the end has a beginning and a middle, too. Another thing about endings? They can be false. Continue reading “So This Is How It Ended”
Last week, I found myself watching Erin Brockovich for the up-teenth time. If you have never seen the movie (have you been living under a rock?) then I highly recommend. It was released in 2000 so I guess, like us, it’s considered a classic by now. It was airing on TCM channel, which was my first hint that I’ve likely seen this movie more times Continue reading “10 Things We Can Learn From Erin Brockovich”
Their tips are spot on and this is a must read for anyone thinking of ending their marriage…
We all know divorce has become common over the last several decades. Although there may be certain factors associated with divorce that are negative, at least women (and men) today can divorce a spouse and move on to achieve a healthy, happy and thriving future. Women today don’t need to be in a marriage to live a full life; we can prosper on our own. Continue reading “Plan Your Divorce Strategy”
One of the most challenging experiences for me during my divorce, was simply dealing with lawyers, attending meetings, discoveries, examinations and finally trial.
It can be intimidating to say the least. It’s one thing to sit with your own lawyer in their office but very different to sit across from your ex and his lawyer in a conference room. Add a court reporter, recording devices, piles of documents and know that you’re going to be grilled by a lawyer any moment, and you start to sweat. Continue reading “Building Confidence for (Divorce) Legal Proceedings”
I guess it’s pick on lawyers day. This is important, though and something I’ve experienced. It made me wonder at the effects of lawyers PREACHING self help when they should be practicing law…
There’s a reason why Lawyers should stick to their expertise and provide legal advice and not personal advice. I know a lawyer who attended a self help weekend retreat. The premise of these retreats is for people to LET GO. They tell their story and then claim they can let them go, like a helium filled balloon—floating away never to be seen again. Continue reading “Why Lawyers Are Not Our Therapists”
“Justice is open to everyone in the same way as the Ritz Hotel”-Judge Sturgess
Caveat: This post is intended to empower you. It is not legal advice.
It sounds crazy but some people find themselves in the Appellate Courts for their divorce. Picture this; two people cannot agree on their divorce settlement so they proceed to trial. A judge decides for them how their assets will be divided and how much alimony if any will be awarded and where the kids will be and when. But that’s not the end…
Inevitably, someone doesn’t ‘like’ the judgment. Usually it’s the person who pays the support or deems he got less in the decision. If he or she has the resources they take the judgment to Appeals in an attempt to change the decision…. Do they need grounds for the Continue reading “Help! He’s Taking Me To Appeals Court”