can cost you…money, assets and even the kids. I’ve heard many stories of regret and loss due to taking the ‘high road’ and being ‘nice’. This is especially true for us women as we are raised to be caring and nurturing. It’s part of our feminine quality. It’s double true for women who make the decision to leave. They, more than anyone are troubled with guilt which leads to being too nice and trying to keep everyone happy.
I’ve been known to say “It’s the moments that count.” I said it in my book, chapter 1 to be precise. Just as in a marriage, it is true during the divorce process as well. We tend to put a great deal of emphasis on the big moments of life like weddings, divorce, giving birth, a long awaited promotion, or finally taking that exotic vacation. All of these big moments are exciting and they give us things to strive for and look forward to however, they are few and far between in life. If we’re only getting excited about these things then what are we doing in the in-between times?
Book Review…i and the Great Divide by Fiona McGlynn
New author Fiona McGlynn has created, with illustrator Robin Urquhart a book that explains divorce for children. i And the Great Divide is a simple and visually appealing book designed to help the younger child understand divorce in their family. The most important message in the book? It’s not your fault…ever. Mom and Dad still love you.
“Dreams are often most profound when they seem the most crazy.” -Sigmund Freud
Henri Matisse
Whoever said dreams are meaningless was wrong. Do you suffer from nocturnal meanderings that disturb your sleep? Our subconscious thoughts get mixed up with our events of the day to culminate in some pretty strange dreams. During divorce, our daytime events are often full of stress and conflict. What we would like to forget at the end of the day can come back to haunt us in our
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Doin’ the Divorce Happy Dance? Well, that’s what women are doing according to the study from the Kingston University in London. Whereas men although slightly happier at their divorce conclusion, are not as significantly as the women. It turns out men are a little less excited and happy about this whole divorce ‘thing’.
What impressed me in the study is it shows that despite the decrease in income levels and the stress involved in divorce, women reported to be happier then when they were married. This
Vashti and Brett Seacat -image source; abc news
I tuned in to Nancy Grace and was immediately riveted by her coverage of the Seacat case. He’s a cop charged with 1st degree murder of his wife Vashti Seacat. Only months prior to her murder, Vashti had served her husband with divorce papers. This is a sharp reminder of the vulnerability of all women who are initiating a separation or divorce. I gave my head a shake while watching this because I couldn’t believe I haven’t blogged about this issue; I’ve been negligent. So, this is what I’ve been meaning to tell you… women who
photo by Mary Schonnen
“Summertime, and the livin’ is easy…your daddy’s rich and your mamma’s good lookin’..” That old Gershwin jazz tune always plays through my mind in June. Summer is upon us and we’ve waited patiently for it to come! We even travel great distances at great expense during the winter months to get a taste of this season in some other exotic locale. But now we have it, right outside our own
Oh, to have a good friend! One who doesn’t let you down, who believes in you…those are the gems…and you’ll need them during a divorce!
“A friend is one that knows you as you are, understands where you have been, accepts what you have become, and still, gently allows you to grow.”
― William Shakespeare
Today’s quote of the week couldn’t be more relevant than during divorce or any other life crisis…
“Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.” – Marcel Proust
Surround yourself with supportive people who make you smile and send love your way. Leave alone the ones who fill you with self doubt. To reiterate this quote…
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